Thursday, December 24, 2009

Let the parents be special

A new teacher asked a question during the nursery class - What you kids want to become in your life ?
First kid answered i want to become a fighter pilot , next one wanted to be an army major and the third one answered he wanted to be a big business man. An average kid not looking as if he was from a rich family answered Hii teacher , I just want to with my parents. Entire class laughed and teacher just thought may be this guy has never thought of anything like this before. He gave him options like doctor, engineer, lawyer but guy again said the same thing and in the same tone. Other kids started laughing but the teacher realized that kid was serious about what he was telling. He was wondering about the maturity of that kid at such a young age. feel as if what this has to do with our life ?

The love kids have for their parents is unparalleled, even animals share this kind of bondage.  But what goes wrong later ?? why we have old age homes and alone parents all across the society today ??

It is heartfelt to see people of 70/80/90 years trying to run a household even when they are not able to walk properly. Do they deserve this kind of treatment , is money everything in life ?
what is the cost where relationship is crushed down by the weight of money ?  Where parents went wrong ?

Since the day a child takes birth parents shift their attention to the well being of kid, They spend their time outside doing all possible hard work so that kid may get all kind of medical attention and be a healthy individual. They put all their effort in imparting the best education and culture in these kids so that they prove to be their life support few years later. They stay awake all the night when this kid is not well .Imagine what emotional havoc it must be for  those parents who are left all alone at such an age.

Its not that entire generation has to be blamed for these situations. There are always few good people but the effort most importantly requires the emotional connect between the parents and children.

Problems of people from our generation is normally the wide scale migration which sees us to come to big cities and spend our lives there, Our busy live styles and our normal busy routines.
But shouldn't we ask ourselves one more question time to time - How on this earth we are supposed to repay the debts of our parents ? How we can make them feel happy and proud about us ?
how they can talk proudly about us in front of their friends ?

Our parents won't ever ask for these things but is not this our responsibilty to make them feel special ??

caring for small things may turn their miseries into the the real rejoice, calling them very often (many a times even without any reason or any thought), making parents a part of the decision that we take for our family, informing the old souls every time there is some thing new and positive, reminding mother of old golden days and asking her to repeat the same things and prepare the same dishes when you are home next time, Asking parents in careful tone about their worries and their health ..

Are these things too difficult to do in any family  ??



to be continued ......



and hats off to NGOs & those people who are  caring for these old people even  though they are not remotely connected to them.


Wish you all a happy Christmas...







Wednesday, December 23, 2009

A problem self made

When we are kids we tend to play and enjoy ourselves very often. As we grow we find more friends like us who share common hobbies and have similar aspirations as us. The real friendship is born when people start sacrificing in different ways to be with the person they want to. We indulge in all kind of fun when we are young. Sports, Movies, night outs and visiting places are some of the most important memories that stays in our memory for long.


We remain fresh because of the fun all around and always want to remain that way. After completion of college and school we tend to focus solely on the money and the career aspect of our life, Friendship and sports takes a back seat and we in spite of being aware do nothing to stop it. Friends do wait for some time but as life is they move on and everything else does. Time to time there is a sudden aspiration to be back with the same set of friends and to be at the same place where life stood out but that never seems to be possible, so what happens after that ??


We the humans start living life like robots and machines with specific set of instructions and activities hardly exploring ourselves out there in real world. We think of something exciting and we always presume that its not possible for us at this age to be the commander of old days passion.  Silly, it sounds but all the human beings go through the same cyclical process generation after generation. May be few are lucky enough to define their own ways, but then there are mortals.


Getting married, raising family, building home and staying peacefully becomes the virtue of self made robots. But thats life for you ...wondering if that applies to you also ??


I personally love  to see animals who enjoy their life on a day to day basis ? Rejoicing every meal that they get and remaining positive for their life.


Some of my suggestions that may prevent the machine within you to stay idle would be :-


A) Try being in touch with old friends at all cost, You would be lucky if you can hang around with your old friend at the age of 80 & 90 when you are all alone.


B) Indulge in sports - Try your hand at the sport you like once or twice every week, Don't bother for the results you are not going to participate in Olympics


C) Start treating your kids as your friends ASAP- let the GAP between your kids and you not grow as you grow. Act like their friends once they are 7 or 8, You can teach them lessons of life while being their friend. They are your guaranteed old age friends.


D) Learn to be a part of the society - contribute in all the manners that you can. Staying connected with friends and families makes you feel connected and emotionally strong. Make people around you feel wanted.


E) Visit your alma matter, schools, institutions time to time- Revive old memories , go to your favorite places from your childhood days, try to meet old fellows of your time.


F) Realize the change around you - Try stopping  time to time and realize the beauty around you. Appreciate your wife's beauty, her caring nature,  praise your kids in front of others and love your pets. These small things are the real beauties of life, try not to miss too many


To be continued